Today at work, I had the opportunity to talk to some of my female colleagues and after discussing relationships and intimacy, I was quick to learn that many of these ladies had rarely reached an orgasm. How could they allow this? Excuses like, “He came first and then it was over,” or “I thought something was wrong with me” were popular amongst them. While I had read stories about women who had never orgasmed in their life, I, seriously, couldn’t believe I had just come across some. I was appalled!

                  One of the things I find to being important in any kind of relationship is communication. Tell your partner what you like, what you don’t like, how to do it, etc… Get comfortable with your body and don’t be afraid to explore it because like John Mayer said, “Your body is a wonderland,” so treat it as such. When starting a relationship, getting acquainted with your partner's body is fun so enjoy the process! Claim your power and if he is done quicker than you, demand he help you climax, too. It is unfair that your partner gets satisfied but you don’t. I find that being intimate with someone is a spiritual experience, so share yourself with someone who will value and treasure what you have to give. Cherish your body, yourself, and your soul. Speak up and share what it is that you do and don't like.

                 If it takes a little bit longer for you to climax, start with some foreplay to help to get you towards your final destination. GET yours!!! Don’t be afraid to instruct him on what to do. Make him WORK, baby. Keep in mind that creativity can come in handy, especially when things start getting a little boring. Try something new like toys, edibles, or new positions. Ladies, you are beautiful beings, so make sure you cum. Don’t fake it. Claim it! OWN it!